As Family Historians/Genealogists our whole being is focused on the life and death of those family members who were here before us, but I wonder how much attention we lend to those who are with us now? I say, not enough.
I am 46 years old. I have experienced life, love, & sorrow. I have suffered the loss of family and friends, but I have never "felt" as much as I am right now.
It seems a little odd to admit as death is not new to us; it is a fact that we deal with on a regular basis, however, it becomes all too real when it involves someone close to us, someone we love & someone we cannot replace.
I have always prided myself on being a strong, independent, self-sufficient person who never needed anyone, though I have to admit in recent weeks my resolve has been tested to its limits. For the first time that I can ever remember, I have wanted & needed someone to hold me and tell me its all going to be ok. I know its not. I expect the road ahead is going to be long, tiresome, heartbreakingly painful & worst of all, something I have absolutely no control over. What I don't know is how I am going to cope with it all.
How do you watch someone you love suffer and know there is nothing you can do to help? I do not have an answer for that.
I feel a sudden urgency to learn as much about this person as quickly as I can. I have realised that I know nothing. I have barely scraped the icing from the cake and all too soon it will be taken from me and the knowledge will be lost forever.
Saturday, 13 May 2017
Sunday, 1 January 2017
Hi Lo 1 Jan 2017
And a new year is upon us. How quickly did the first day pass?
We are all so busy with the everyday that we forget how important it is to discuss what has been both good and bad for us today. Back in the day when the kids were at home, and we ate dinner at the table we used to do HI LO. It is a great way to get the family talking about their day and it's impact. Its a simple concept. We each took it in turns to share a High from the day and a Low from the day.
I would like to start today, 1 Jan 2017, with my Hi Lo, in the hope that my friends and family will join in and share their moments. The importance of this is remembering that we do not all have an outlet, and sometimes that one outstretched hand is all we need to remember we are not alone.
My day was a quiet one by choice. I have not been in a good head space for sometime now, and the past couple of weeks have proven extra difficult. So for today my HIGH was to spend the time on myself, doing pretty much nothing and it was GREAT. I scrolled through Facebook and caught up on news that I haven't had the time for. I drew up my healthy living plan (yes I WILL lose weight & be a healthier person this year), I played/fumbled with the guitar (and realised how much I have forgotten) and I swam in my pool. My LOW was a terrible bout of diarrhea and therefore not spending time with friends who I was looking forward to catching up with. I now suspect this was because of my preparation for my healthy living plan rather than a contagious virus, but best be prepared than sorry eh.
It was stinking hot, so it was a lazy day in all, but there is always tomorrow right? My daughter liked a Facebook page about beginner pole dancing, so along with my intention to return to line dancing classes next week, I am seriously considering a pole dancing session or ten. Looks like fun.. if I don't break anything... Who is with me?
So tell me, what was your HILO?
We are all so busy with the everyday that we forget how important it is to discuss what has been both good and bad for us today. Back in the day when the kids were at home, and we ate dinner at the table we used to do HI LO. It is a great way to get the family talking about their day and it's impact. Its a simple concept. We each took it in turns to share a High from the day and a Low from the day.
I would like to start today, 1 Jan 2017, with my Hi Lo, in the hope that my friends and family will join in and share their moments. The importance of this is remembering that we do not all have an outlet, and sometimes that one outstretched hand is all we need to remember we are not alone.
My day was a quiet one by choice. I have not been in a good head space for sometime now, and the past couple of weeks have proven extra difficult. So for today my HIGH was to spend the time on myself, doing pretty much nothing and it was GREAT. I scrolled through Facebook and caught up on news that I haven't had the time for. I drew up my healthy living plan (yes I WILL lose weight & be a healthier person this year), I played/fumbled with the guitar (and realised how much I have forgotten) and I swam in my pool. My LOW was a terrible bout of diarrhea and therefore not spending time with friends who I was looking forward to catching up with. I now suspect this was because of my preparation for my healthy living plan rather than a contagious virus, but best be prepared than sorry eh.
It was stinking hot, so it was a lazy day in all, but there is always tomorrow right? My daughter liked a Facebook page about beginner pole dancing, so along with my intention to return to line dancing classes next week, I am seriously considering a pole dancing session or ten. Looks like fun.. if I don't break anything... Who is with me?
So tell me, what was your HILO?
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